Today I will talk about names. Names are powerful things. In a book I am currently reading, the author
draws on old magic wherein the knowing the name of a thing gives one a certain
power over it. Sometimes, this is a
dangerous use of dark magic and sometimes it is something more subtle and
beautiful. But always, it is power. From Rothfuss to Rowling to Rumplestiltskin,
there are countless examples from fiction, fantasy, and folklore that tell of
the power of names.
For me, it works on other levels as well. We use our given names everywhere (in Pulp Fiction, isn’t it Bruce Willis’
character who says we are in America, and names don’t mean….well, you get the
idea). I don’t think that’s entirely
true, but there is a certain amount of familiarity with the names we carry on
our birth certificates. Perhaps that is
why it feels like there is power in the bestowing of a name that is accepted by
the one who is named. The giving of a
nickname, a pet name, a role name, or the choosing of a name is not something
often entered into lightly. I’ve thought
about this a lot lately – partially due to the need to name the kitten that is
currently fiercely battling a stuffed mouse under my chair. Perhaps because of the Baptism I recently
attended or the student I have who was brave enough and strong enough to give
himself a male name to better reflect who he felt like inside. Perhaps I’ve always loved names as a writer
and a gamer and someone who loves words in general (who amongst you writers and
games doesn’t know what I mean when I say a name must have The Ring?) My husband is more frequently known by the
character name from the game in which we met than he is by his given name. My best friend is called Raven for a million
reasons, all of which are fitting and funny and wise and meaningful beyond what
I can explain here. I tend to give
nicknames to my dear friends because it ties them closer to me in some
way. Not to sound proprietary, but it
makes them mine. I hate the way that sounds, but I think my
readers will know what I mean. It is a
verbal bond – or a verbal marker of a bond that is far more ethereal, in
general. As someone who has long believed that I’m
cursed with finding wonderful people only to then lose them, this is a significant
emotional investment. Names of all kinds
have power in my world…and if I give you one, it means something. If you give me one, it means something as
well.
That leads me to verbalizing my curiosity about names I’ve
gathered over time. There are a number
of reasons for this and a number of names that immediately spring to mind. JDB has a slew of nicknames for me, Raven has
one, my sister has one. My brother gave
me one long ago that he doesn’t use much anymore, really, but it’s still mine. My father and mother each have names for me,
as do my nephews. And then there are my
students. Many of them call me Dr. T., which is
something I like. Formal, but not. Kind of like me. Amongst the larger group of students is a
smaller group who, for a variety of reasons, I refer to as my Minions. They seem completely at ease with this
moniker and they consist of students who take every class with me that they
can. They are students who wear the title
with something akin to honor and they seem believe they have to earn it and
keep earning it. They work hard; they go
above and beyond as students. And they
have given me a name to which I also feel I must continue to earn. There was a time when the chief among them
called me Teacher Lady. Later, it just
became Teacher. Still later, it was
shortened again to Teach. And then it
spread until all the Minions now use it.
I see it in letters, emails, notes on my door, Facebook messages, in the
halls and the random places where we meet.
On some level it may seem generic – it is a verb that describes what I
do. I suspect it means a lot more than
that and that it carries a lot of weight behind it. I think.
I’m sometimes not very good at these things. This may sound completely
off the wall, but it reminds me of the days when I was called Fang-sama and Sōke
(pronounced so-kay). Which, of course,
begs some explanation.
In the game where I met my husband and the people with whom
I’ve held the longest friendships I’ve ever had, I played a character that
belonged to one of three races. One race
was vaguely Middle Eastern, one was loosely Western European, and the third was
based on a blending of various Asian cultures.
The dress, philosophy, culture, and belief system was an amalgamation of
mostly Japanese and Chinese cultures of the past. I chose the third one to play (I was and
still am a fan of martial arts movies and even trained Washin-ryu for a little
while. I claim no real knowledge of
anything beyond that, I just liked what little I knew). Since I was the head of the monarchy, which
at its largest was 160+ members, it had those same cultural leanings. We were a role-playing group and so I was my character for many of its members
– and I was never anything else. When
they or I left the game, we no longer really existed for one another. But while we were there, I was Soke – which roughly
translates to something like headmaster, head of the family, or even
grandmaster. To some I was Sensei –
teacher. Some went so far as to call me “My
Queen” (one still does to this day) or to add –sama to my character’s
name. This last often caused me some
measure of embarrassment – for it is an honorific given to one whom is greatly
loved, respected, or admired.
Now, this was, of course, in a role-playing game so some
amount of hyperbole is to be expected and I certainly don’t personally lay
claim to any of those titles or honorifics, though at the time I loved the feel
of them in the context of the game. I
was the head of a monarchy and so it was a good feeling to have so many willing
to play that role with me and create a vast network of like-minded folks in a
game where interactive story telling far surpassed the graphics and story of
the game itself.
Sōke and Teach are very different things, but I treasure
them for much the same reasons. They
were given to me by people who chose to give me a name that reflected who I was
in their life. It may seem odd to say,
but I've always seen a certain level of parallel to gaming and educating. I play the role of educator, they play the
role of learners. When the game – the class
– is over, they move on and so do I. We
all find new games and new experiences and often, our paths diverge, never
more to reunite. I was their professor,
but am no more because they have moved on.
They were my students, but are no more, because our time together has
ended. They may never use the knowledge
again in a direct way, but I like to think it has impacted them on some level –
just as we may never return to the games of our past, but they forever impact
the games we play in the future, even if it is a subtle and indirect and obscure
a connection. But some – some stay, the
game changes and the characters change, but they remain. They are the Minions who let “Hey Teach” roll
off their tongues with casual smoothness and grins. They are the ones who still call me Fang-sama
and My Queen – despite that we stopped playing the game over ten years ago.
I started talking about names and ended up talking about
teaching and students and, to a larger extent, the impact we have on the people
around us. And games. There may be names I don’t
have anymore, but they are in the Record Book of who I am and how I came to be
the person writing this today. So, I
will treasure ‘Teach’ for as long as it is part of my current story…and we will
see who keeps using it, who finds a new name, and who fades away leaving good
memories and a story behind them as they travel.
